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Saturday, January 3, 2009

It's In Your Hands

No matter what anyone says, YOU have the power to decide who you are.
Who you are today does not have to be who you are tomorrow. YOU have the power to change yourself.
I hate it when people say, "I can't help being a jerk. It's who I am. Take it or leave it."
Well, if there's a problem with who you are, change yourself! You can be whoever you want to be, for better or worse.
Changing your personality is one of the hardest things in the world, because it's changing a part of who you are. It can take a lifetime. And once changed, you can always lapse back into your original state in less than a second. It takes no longer than a blink of an eye to undo decades' worth of effort.
But I believe change is possible.
People talk about changing the world. But we can't all change the world. In fact, it is very nearly impossible to change one other person at all. We change others by changing ourselves. Remember that.
I believe that we all have so much potential we're not using. I believe we all have incredible strengths hidden within us.
No matter what people tell you you are, no matter what they call you, it is up to YOU to decide who you are now, and who you will become.
The power is in your hands.
Will you let go of it, give it to others? Let them decide who you are? Let them tell you to be a good person or a bad person?
Or will you use the power yourself, for yourself, to be the best YOU that you can possibly be?

43 comments:

Rose Mary said...

yay. great post.

Dibsy said...

yay, she's right!

do you think...

1) things never change. even if they're altered there is still a little bit of the old selves that are still the same.
or
2) things change. if you want to change, you will change.

Mac said...

Well, recently I discovered in a book that how you are born acting is your personality. What you become is your character. I think that is the difference between kids and adults, kids are simply content to be them, which is nice, but adults are ready to improve. To improve you have to change and discover and be a little more than yourself. Not to say that you still can't be YOU, there are many different ways to do the same thing.

I say the first one.

Mac said...

Good post

griffinrider said...

thanks. i think that the whole point of being here is to change yourselves. humans are hopelessly flawed, as everyone knows. we can't be perfect. but we can be better. it's possible to change your personality. not only is it possible, it's necessary.

dibsy, when it comes to people, i think most of the time it's the first one. people tend to cling to their old habits. that's why it's so easy to go back to how you were before you tried to change. and even if you changed your habits, there's always a part of you that will want to go back to how you were before. i guess it's because change really scares people, for better or worse.

Dibsy said...

that's kind of true. when i entered 6th Grade I attempted being more mature---still trying. ^^

Zetsu said...

^^ I agree. I know that's SO true because I've changed so much from when I knew I could be whatever I wanted! I used to always be happy and peppy, and now I'm usually happy, but I try to be calm. Nowadays, I don't really want to be the kind of person who is hyper all the time, but more of a calm, cool person (hard as it may be for me to keep a straight face). When I started middle school, about halfway through the year, I decided I really wanted to be the "Ultimate Cool," you know? Now, I just don't jump off the walls, and that's fine by me.

Dibsy said...

I still jump off the walls, unfortunately. v.v (sniffs)

griffinrider said...

i'm still crazy and hyper a lot. and i like that part about about myself. i know you guys probably find that hard to believe, cuz on this blog i don't usually say anything too crazy. but a once posted a whole list of crazy stuff i've done. it's probably in the archives somewhere, if you're interested. maybe i'll re-post it, and update it, of ocurse.

Dibsy said...

mmm. mehehe. i lurve randomness. meheheh. what kind of crazy stuff have you guys done at school?

Zetsu said...

yeah, my dad offered to work on Christmas and my mom was like, "WTF EVER! Fine then, you can stay here in the cold and we'll go to Mexico!"

Rose Mary said...

I can tell, GR. i can tell from your thing about orange soda.

dibsy, I think people do change a lot but there's a part of them that stays the same. if you know someone well enough you can sometimes see a glimpse of what they'll be like.

Cuppy said...

you are so incredibly smart. though i will say, change is coming, whether we want it or not.

Dibsy said...

whos incredibly smart? rose mary? lol vynn. XD

griffinrider said...

"The only permanent thing is change." unfortunatly, i forgot who first said that.

griffinrider said...

speaking of change, do you guys liek the new layout? i haven't changed the layout since i started, and i was getting bored of green and orange.

Dibsy said...

yep i like it. =)

c said...

I LOVE THE NEW LAYOUT!!!!!!

Change is hard. Most people won't open up to change. They won't give something new a chance. And I'm not talking about really simplistic things like new foods.

Just look at the US after the Civil War. The South did not have open minds and were still prejudice after the Civil War. The KKK did terrible things to African American churches and stuff.

Heck, some people are still prejudice today.

(And when I say "the south" I don't mean every last Southern person, because I know there were people who were against slavery and who were never racist. )

I don't know if you have ever heard of the book Roll of Thunder Hear my Cry, but we are reading it in school and it is about an African American family who go through some "tough times" (that are very violent, harsh, ect.) And I cant wait to read more.
Great post. =D

Rose Mary said...

*gasp* new layout. it's awesome!!!

griffinrider said...

thank you for compliments on the layout. you see? change is good every once in a while. we can't always cling to the same old habits, the same old beliefs. sometimes e have to start anew.

good point, c. i never thought of racism that way. it's true with many things- sometimes people still cling to their immature, preconceived notions. you've got to learn to open your eyes a little sometimes.

Dibsy said...

racism and sexism really peeve me off! >:X (i feel like slapping boys who say that girls are weak, unfortunately for them -.-)

Rose Mary said...

I love how guys think girls are so weak a lot of times. it's so funny. yeah, I have an odd sense of humor...

griffinrider said...

it is quite humorous, isn't it? my brother is always saying how he should to cetain things instead of me cuz guys are stronger than girls, even though he KNOWS i am much stronger than him. i've lost track of the amount of times i've beaten him up.

Dibsy said...

lol. my brother (who's 7) always tries hurting me. i also can't coutn the times i've beat him up. XP

Nixx said...

Woah...new layout...i dont really like it, but whatever. just becuz u changed it doesnt mean that i wont stop readin the blog..

anyway...yea, change is hard, but its possible and usually unavoidable

Anonymous said...

You know, I havn't been on her in a long, long time. In fact, it's been so long that I stopped blogging and got rid of my account. But you know me- I was with the blog pretty much from the beggining.

Anyways, I was scrolling through my favorites I saw this site(doesn't it make you so filled with joy?), and I thought you had stopped blogging, but I was wrong. I clicked on it and was like "Woah, total makeover." And I read some resent posts, and let me say this- you havn't changed one bit. Well, you have, but you still sound like your idealist self (I mean that in a good way). And I just wanted to share some thoughs with you, because I think you'd be able to discuss and/or argue it best.

What I really want in life is to achieve word peace. To eliminate borders. To use technoligy to make advanciments in medicine, not weapons. But right now, it seems that will never happen. People don't trust each other. Hate each other. Why? Because I don't have the same skin color as them? Because you don't believe in the same God as someone else? There are radicals out there, and there always will be. But it's not just them. It's plenty of other things too. And I say the only way to get rid of all the bad stuff in the world, the only way to create the perfect world, is to blow everything up. Kill everyone. But even then, the world is not perfect. You just murdered billions of people, destroyed everything. So the world is still full of corruption. What con we do?

Alannah said...

Great post, espcially since it's around the start of the New Year, and everyones making resolutions to change themselves.
I think that before we change the world first people have to change themselves and their nature. It's harder to keep peace if everyone is really agressive all the time.

Rose Mary said...

I kinda like that guys think that sometimes. it means we get out of doing things cuz we're 'weaker'.

Hoshi said...

i know i'm agressive. and i don't mean to be- but when someone hurts or threatens my friends or family, i tend to explode. i try not to rip their faces off. and yes, change is hard. as humans, we tend to drift toward the things that are easy. it's imprinted in our brains since like(i don't want to insult anyone because i don't go to church ok so don't take it that way) forever ago. survival instinct. do whatever it takes to survive. take the easy road. save energy. get food. stay warm. simple things like that. does everyone understand that?

also yes, it's pretty funny when guys say girls are weaker. Sure, guys might be stronger, but us girls have the wits, and we can put guys in a fix, easy. i have a plan for almost everything. like if someone threatens you and you have a gun. if they cross a certain line, you're going to pull the trigger. you can't dither with who they are, you just have to do what you have to do to protect yourself and your family and the people you care about. part of human nature is being selfless, giving yourself up to save someone you love. and geese(though obviously not human) have that trait of humanity too. it was on oprah(which i was cruelly forced to watch in one of my classes... animal science. she did a thing on animal rights.) and it was a guy that had experienced it. he worked on a farm his job was to get the geese and bring them to slaughter or something and geese mate for life so the gooses mate would always come out and squack and stuff. so theres a human trait in animals.

i like to think of myself as being like Max.(she rocks) i'll do anything to save my friends and family and myself. i actually pulled an awesome move the other day. my friend grabbed my arm(dominant arm) and i broke his grip and slugged him in the gut.

nice layout by the way.

got to go, see ya

Mac said...

I think the first step to changing the world is changing the minds of the future of the world. I dont' mean like brainwashing or communism or anything, quite the opposite. Sites and conversations like this are the first step. If we could get as many people as possible to start thinking, and I mean THINKING, then things would start to change. Instead of people focusing on things like racism, people would start being introduced to other ideals and new elements. I moved around a LOT when I was little and I like to think I am pretty open minded. I think that's what they try to do to you in Language Arts. In my class they are always getting us into debates about stuff.

Rose Mary said...

my dad says the main purpose of school isn't to teach us concepts, that's important, but it can change. the main purpose is to teach us to think.

griffinrider said...

yes, Rose Mary, and unfortunately many schools are failing miserably at acheiving that goal.

phantasmagoria, did you have a different name before? the topics you brought up are very deep, and i think are deserving of their own posts and discussions. i'm a tad busy at the moment, but hopefully i'll post on that soon, k? by the way, thanks for the compliments.

Decemberflower said...

love the new layout, and everything i've read is so true and amazeing.

i'm not so good about change, i mean, i know it should happen but -like ade said -i don't wanna change half the time. but i always do, and i always end up liking that i changed. so i guess i'm getting used to it.

and it's funneh how guys think theyr'e stronger than guys. it means when they mess with me they get the shock of their lives! (but my older brother, charm, admits to not only my friends but HIS friends that i can beat him up. which i have done many times before).

in honor on this post and dicusion of change. i have changed my profile & profile pic!

Rose Mary said...

wow... interesting profile...

hehe. the word verification looks like magical. but it's not. it's agical.

Reagan said...

That was amazing. I agree with pretty much all of it. I really enjoyed reading it actually. It made me feel a lot better about who I am. Do you mind if I stalk your blog?
(Follow this blog.) I can't wait for the next post! Hurry!!!

Decemberflower said...

*girls.

I said guys think they're stronger than guys. i meant girls.

(the only reason rylie says stalk your blog when she means follow it is that she followed my brother's blog and he said she was stalking his blog)

thnx, RM

Anonymous said...

Yeah, I used to have a name, I was on here a lot. Let's see if you can figure out who I am, like you did to me that one time.
And thanks for reading and considering. Hope to hear from you again.

Mac said...

Ya, hurry with the next post! :D

Rose Mary said...

wow, a whole section of just us dreamers. why wasn't anyone else on at that point?

griffinrider said...

phantasmagoria, are you bassrunner? no, you couldn't be...could you? i recognize your style. you are, aren't you?

griffinrider said...

oh, and thanks, rylie j. 'course you can stalk the blog. just don't stalk me. deal?

Mella said...

This reminds me of the quote: People are only as good as we treat them.

It's entirely true.

If you always treat someone like they are the scum of the earth then, mainly because they are human, they aren't exactly going to chirp around singing your praises or still find it in themselves to smile at you every morning. And if you treat someone like they are your entire world aren't they eventually going to get used to that and possibly (not necessarily) take advantage of you? I've always known that it's possible to change yourself but if you do try to change it is you, alone, fighting against the world, the world who couldn't care less whether you stay as you are or change completely.

People change because they no longer want to suffer themselves, not because the world wants you to change. But that wasn't what you were posting about...

=D

Anonymous said...

Geez, you catch on quick. Do you really think my style's changed? I guess so. It's been such a long time. But yeah.